3 Things you need to know about struggling with low desire

Kate says . . .

I remember the time clearly, because the mind remembers emotional pain as if it were yesterday. Our minds can forget physical pain, but recall emotional pain almost instantly.

I remember because there are current moments where I wonder if I will travel down the same scary broken road. Will I struggle with my inner self while wrestling with God. I do not want to go back there! Ever! And yet it is through that time of brokenness that I can now share my struggles and see the how God restores and heals.

I am a wife who has struggled with low desire for sex in her marriage and these are three things you need to know about a spouse who struggles like me. Husband or wife, it make no difference.3 Things you need to know about struggling with low desire

Just because I struggle with desire, doesn’t mean I don’t desire my husband

It seems to be a contradiction. I know. I get it. But in all the time that I was struggling with desire for sex, I wanted to want sex! I found my hubby very attractive and desired him. Yet when that translated to wanting sex, I struggled.

I just could not seem to make my body respond to the desire that I had. I believe that if we had not experienced our breakthrough change in our marriage, it would have crippled us and eventually I would have tamped down any sexual feelings for my hubby to “deal.” I would have kept my head buried in the sand so that I did not have to deal with the reality of the lack of sex in our marriage.

Struggling with desiring sex, does not mean we do not desire our spouse!

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