As Kate and I start our 10-Day Challenge we will be reading the wonderful book of Song of Solomon together. Today I wanted to share a little bit about this great book as a way to encourage all of you to dive in as we learn something together!
Song of Solomon
There is quite a lot of debate about this little book. It is one of the shortest books in the Bible, but most would agree it is one of the most controversial. Theories abound about its purpose and its author. Conservative teachers are often uncomfortable with the very sexual language in the book and will say that is really isn’t about sex. Claiming instead that it is an allegory showing how Christ loves the Church. Personally, I’m no Bible scholar, but I think this is a bit of a stretch.
The other debate is just who wrote this poem. Was it the wise King Solomon writing about one of his 500 wives? Or was it a young shepherd boy courting another young herdsman’s daughter and making illusions to what it would be like for them to be royalty. Read a dozen websites and you will get a dozen opinions on the subject.
When I read the words in this beautiful book, what jumps off the page is the story of lovers. Lovers who are exploring life and love together. So avoiding the controversy, what can we learn from this book as we are doing our 10-Day Challenge?
Here are 4 lessons husbands can learn from Song of Solomon:
1. Be A Poet
Bring back the art of poetry. When I read “Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine.”(1:2). It brings me back to those days when I was still trying to capture a young Kate’s heart. I wrote longing letters when we were apart from each other, I tried my hand at some horrid love poetry, I made mix tapes! Do you remember those days? Do you ever reach into that poet’s soul anymore? Try it, reach in and see it if touches your wife’s soul in a special way!
Be a man of compliments. Almost every word spoken by “the man” throughout this whole book is a compliment toward his beloved.
- “You’re so beautiful! And your eyes so beautiful—like doves!” (1:15)
- “For your voice is pleasant, and your face is lovely.” (2:14)
- “You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.” (4:7)
- “Your hair falls in waves, like a flock of goats winding down the slopes of Gilead.” (6:5)
Do I recommend that your compare your wife to a flock of goats, no, no I do not, but it worked for him! Make it a habit to give your wife compliments every day! About her appearance, her body, the work she has done to make your house a home, the food in short, everything! Follow this guy’s lead, let most of the words out of your mouth be compliments and see what the result is.
3. Innuendo is a Good Thing
Speak with a loving and sexual voice. Now I’m not saying that you should bring back the middle school locker room talk. I’m talking loving romantic sexual talk. “I will climb the palm tree and take hold of its fruit.” (7:8) is the most overt of the many many sexual innuendo comments in this wonderful book. Have fun picking them out together and then see how you can work them into your everyday conversations together. This is okay between married couples, it can be fun, and this could even help you with “kid code” for your 10-Day Challenge.
4. Words with Friends
Speak positively about your wife to your friends! Throughout this book we see that both lovers have a chance to talk to their friends. Even a few times the friends raise questions about their lover. What do they do? Does he go with the crowd and start complaining about all of the things his “old lady” nags about? Does he make disparaging remarks about her? No, this young man stands up for his beloved (and she stands up for him too) and compliments her to his friends. Maybe you are not ready to tell all your friends about the amazing 10 days of sex you are going to have, but are you uplifting about your wife to your friends? Do your friends think you have a great marriage?
We have heard from many of you that you will be joining us in this 10-Day challenge! We are praying for you all! I hope this will be an excellent time together, and one that you look back on as a spark in your marriage journey!