You have reached the end of the 10-Day Challenge! You have just completed the 5k of physical intimacy! We hope that this has been an awesome experience for all of you!
- If you were intimate all 10 days you get a gold star!
- If you missed a few, no worries, you still get the red participant ribbon J
- No matter what happened I hope you learned something the question is WHAT?!
I am guessing that you are asking a bunch of questions now that you have crossed the finish line.
“What does all this mean?”
- “Do we pack this experience away and wait till next year’s 10-day challenge?”
- “Do we keep going and see if we can beat the writers and actually make it 30 days?”
As we have said before in this blog sexual intimacy is only one aspect of what makes up the intimacy of a One Flesh marriage. After the two of you have spent the past 10 days increasing the temperature setting in this one area what has happened to your emotional and spiritual intimacy?
Do you feel emotionally closer after this experience? Why? Is it simply because you were spending the time to be together? Or is it because in order to be sexually intimate you had to work out some differences or decide to forgive and ignore some? Maybe as a result of being sexually intimate, the emoting just started happening! Kate and I had the pleasure of meeting and talking with some couples throughout the 10-Day Challenge experience. We both noticed all of the couples were holding hands, giving kisses, exchanging tender touches, and in other ways expressing emotional love to each other. Having not known some of these couples prior to them starting the challenge, they may have always been like this, but I have a feeling that the experience might have turned up their emotional passion as well as their physical one! Has it for you?
Kate’s quote says it all for me. “Without God in my life I am nothing, but without Kate I am not who He intended me to be!” For me when I draw nearer to Kate it is an act of worship to the one who created her too! I absolutely feel that spiritual intimacy growing. Now I am guessing that there will be some of you who are asking: “What in the world does having sex with my spouse have to do with spirituality?” There are many people who have removed this level of intimacy from their relationship. If this is you, then would challenge you to consider what you are missing in your life and in your marriage. The difference is night and day!
Let’s talk frequency
Let’s face it; it is easy to get into ruts in life. In order to juggle all the different things going on we rely the ruts to fit it all in. I’m guessing if you thought about your sex life prior to the 10-day challenge you would find some of those ruts. The rut about when and how often you make love! This challenge just blew those ruts out of the water. The old are gone, the new, well you have not established the new ruts of physical intimacy just yet. You have just experienced a new possibility. Are you now going to go on and have sex every night of your lives? I doubt it, (and if you do please let the rest of us know how you accomplished it!) But these 10 days have “recalibrated” the normal setting in your minds, your bodies, and in your relationship. How is this going to change your relationship in the future? How can you avoid the ruts reappearing?
So where do you go from here?
I’m going to end our 10-Day Challenge with another challenge! Now you and your spouse have to talk about it! I know you are saying: “What? Actually talk to my spouse about intimacy?” This might actually be a harder challenge for some of you then completing the 10 days! But, if you enjoyed anything about these past 10-Days the only way that you will keep the emotional passion, the spiritual connectedness, and yes even the physical frequency changes is to talk about it! Use some of the questions here to spark a conversation tonight about your intimacy and see where it takes you! You never know! You might just end up going for 11!
- Bask in the glow of the finish line of your 10 days
- Talk with your spouse about your experiences
- Watch for tomorrow’s post about the negatives of the 10-Day Challenge! (Yes there are some)
- And post a comment and let us know in 10 words or less what the 10-days was like for you!