Kate says . . . Reading the comments on Brad’s post, “Take Matters Into Your Own Hands” I have been encouraged over and over to remind the wives to initiate sex more often with their hubby, so that masturbation will not be an issue. I am choosing not to go that route with my reply! The reason that Brad and I chose this topic was because of the many wives who have written us sharing that their husband has low desire and that they are the ones who want more sexual intimacy in the relationship. I hear you wives out there; I know there are many of you, I have not forgotten you and I am certainly not forgetting the pain and struggle you are going through. As Brad said in his post communication is the key! I know ladies, you are thinking, that is not so easy. You are right. But without communication, you have no ground for discovery, growth and healing.