Seduce Your Wife in 5 Senses

Brad says…

I’m stumped guys! I’m not usually at a loss for things to say, but when trying to come up with a husband’s reply to Kate’s “5 Senses of Sex” I’m tongue-tied. I considered writing about the ways husbands can be seductive by tapping into their wife’s 5 senses, but lets face it seduction for men and women are just two totally different things.

Your wife telling you to “find the sent”,(as Kate suggested) can be a very exciting proposition. You telling your wife to “find the sent” on the other hand, just doesn’t have the same allure. If you are going to use your wife’s 5 senses to seduce her, you are going to have to think a bit differently then the awesome suggestions that Kate gave wives. (Let me just add, they are awesome suggestions and any of us husbands would love them!)


While it is said that the path to any man’s heart is said to be through his stomach, I’m not sure the path is that much different for women. I can think of little that is more romantic then a quiet home cooked candlelit meal. Challenged in the kitchen? Then hit the books, anyone can pick out one good recipe and follow step by step instructions. Give it a try, your wife will be impressed that you did! **


Two simple rules when approaching your wife’s sense of smell. Rule 1: If you do… then you won’t seduce; bathe. Rule 2: I’m told that every woman likes to know that her husband’s nose is still working. A simple test is needed from time to time to show this, an assortment of fresh flowers, or nice smelling lotion is required to pass the test.  Fortunately, these are also great ways to show your wife you love her. Why? I don’t know, I just know they are, and guys that is really all we need to know!


Have you ever noticed how you can be sweating in the same room that your wife has just declared she is about to get frost bite in? This is one of the profound mysteries of the sexes, and I’m guessing a constant source of amusement in heaven. How does this play into sensuality you ask? Simple. If your wife is risking hypothermia simply by allowing a draft of air under the blanket, how do you ever plan to remove her protective clothing? Impress your wife by thinking warmth; a fireplace, a hot bath, even a blanket big enough for two can help get things started in the right direction. Better yet, find a way to raise the temperature in your hideaway. I was recently surprised to discover that it only takes a few candles to dramatically increase the temp in our bedroom.


I am very happy to live in chaos. I like piles, I’m comfortable with ever cabinet door open, and there have been seasons when I would only wash the dish when I needed to use it again. My wife, on the other hand is not exactly as happy in my disorganized chaos. Now, I have to go on record that Kate is in no way obsessed with decluttering my mess as some people could be. We have both adapted to meet in the functional middle of cleanish. But as I write this I am sitting next to a basket of laundry that needs to be folded. Perhaps as you read this you are near a similar pile. Guy’s I know that it is very easy to not even see that basket, we see a hundred other things but can step right over that basket before we recognize that it is something that needs done. Our wives, on the other hand tend to see that basket long before they see time together. If you would like a chance to seduce your wife with any of her other senses then I suggest you take a look around and discover the things in your wife’s vision that will hamper that time together. ** warning, if you followed my taste tip, leaving a stack of dirty dishes in the sink counteracts any seduction that might have occurred!


This is the easiest sense to use to tap into your wife’s sensuality. You only have to do one thing, Talk. Talk about your day, talk about your thoughts, talk about your worries, talk about what you are learning, anything! Just start talking. When you have run out of things to talk about then just start telling your wife all the reasons that you are glad you are married and why you would choose her all over again!

These might not be as direct as Kate’s suggestions to wives, but I think you will find that they can be quite effective. Do you have other way’s of tapping into your wife’s 5 senses guys? Women, what would you recommend?

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8 Responses to Seduce Your Wife in 5 Senses

  1. Touch- back rub while hugging, and massages- hand, back, and head… YES!!!!!!!

    Taste- simple fruit and wine works… or order out and make it look nice on a plate.

    A bonus item- providing something that I mentioned in casual conversation and ssavign me the trip… it’s practical but honestly, it shows me that you pay attention and you took the time out of your day to think abotu my needs and attempt to meet them. It’s lovely. 🙂

  2. Great post, Brad.  You make me laugh out loud with some of your honest attempts at understanding your wife. I suppose its a life-long challenge to “live with your wife in an understanding way!”
    I would add a few:
    Taste – chocolate! Yes, no recipes are needed simply a great bar of dark chocolate with a glass of red wine.
    Touch – I am always cold. One time in the middle of winter (yes, Florida does get cold in the winter!) while I was washing up, Tom took the blow-dryer and used it to warm up my side of the bed. I didn’t hear it because I had the water running. When I climbed in bed expecting cold sheets, I was delighted! Simple, but very effective towards romance.
    Hearing – I love music, so anytime Tom turns on a romantic CD it immediately calms my soul.

  3. The same practical tips Kate provided work both ways as well as those tips suggested in the comments so long as the husband or wife is open to being seduced.

  4. Just make sure when you’re doing all that talking that you’re listening, too.  My husband’s idea of a conversation is talking about himself until he runs out of things to say.  Then he asks himself a question and answers it and keeps going.  Not effective for seduction.

    • Melanie,
      Thanks for writing! You are absolutely correct that communication is key, and takes four sides, two listening and two talking. Without all 4 being active it isn’t a conversation. I would encourage all husbands to learn from this comment the importance of listening. Listening yo big and little things! Thanks for sharing your struggle Melanie, I’m sure many will learn from it. I hope that you can be honest with your hubby and help him learn to listen too! God bless,