Kate says . . .
Hmm . . . getting your hubby on board for the 10 Day Challenge. While some wives might have themselves a little laugh knowing that the mere mention of such a challenge will be enough to get him on board, there are other woman who the mere thought brings them to tears with great pain in their heart, because their hubby struggles with lack of desire. I want to be understanding and sensitive to both. Regardless of how you and your hubby approach sex and intimacy in your marriage, let me encourage you that this challenge, with God’s help has the potential to bless you and teach you much. Never underestimate the power of God to work, extend grace, bless and work in your marriage.
I am going to start with the number 1 way, and then reverse and go backwards. Yes, life with me is never dull, Brad is always on his toes!
I wanted to start with the number 1 way to get your husband on board for the 10 Day Challenge and the most important. Whether you struggle with sex and intimacy or perhaps your hubby does, seeking God’s desire for your marriage through this challenge is so vital. Maybe you and your hubby have a great sexual intimacy, but simply want to see what God will show you through this challenge. Wherever you are, God knows your marriage. He knows the good, the bad, the ins and the outs. But he wants for you to talk with Him. Ask Him for his leading and what he wants of you as wife, seeking Him. Ask Him to show you how you can bless your husband and your marriage through taking part in this challenge. Pray!
9. Share with your hubby your desire your marriage
Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 7:1-7
Openly express your desire for your marriage. I am think that most of us would love to see our marriage blessed and become what God wants of it. Share that desire with your hubby. Pray Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 1:1-7 over your marriage. Seek God’s will for those verses in your own life.
8. For 10 days you will share time alone together
Lovingly tell your hubby that every day you will make time for him, no matter what. Not just sex time, although that will be a part of it. Time snuggling, talking, touching and enjoying each other’s company.
7. Share in reading marriage material together
Encourage your hubby to check out the blog, if he does not already. Show him the 10 day challenge posts from a little over a year ago, so he can get a good idea of what is going on! We will be sharing tips for you during the challenge as well as sharing what we learned doing the 10 day sex challenge.
6. Move past your sexual intimacy stumbling blocks
Even the best of marriages have stumbling blocks. There are certain things that keep us from sex at times. Some cannot be avoided, others can. As you embark on this journey you will become more aware of those stumbling blocks and how to move past them.
5. 10 straight days of sex. Enough said!
For many hubby’s this will be enough to get him on board. Find some fun, sexy way to share the challenge and explain that you will share 10 days of sex together.
4. Well planned spontaneity
There will be a great need for spontaneity as well as planning. Whenever we make something a priority in our lives, we have to plan. Yet, sometimes we have to throw caution to the wind and be bold and spontaneous! Both of these things can be very appealing!
3. Free Giveaway!
It is our desire to share with our amazing readers, some awesome resources. We will have a few giveaways of these resources at the end of the challenge. Look for how you can enter to win, soon! (* If you would like to donate prizes for our 10 Day Challenge give away please Contact Us )
2. Express your desire to focus on what is pleasurable to your hubby
Marriage is not all about us, right wives? Even though we want to just have a selfish party many days. Challenge yourself to put your hubby’s needs and pleasures first. Nothing totally outside of your comfort zone, but focusing on his pleasure. Though it is difficult at times, putting your hubby first is healing and will bless you both tremendously!
I hope that these 10 things will help both you and your hubby to save the date for the 10 Day Challenge! Mark you calendars for February 5th through the 14th and get ready to have an awesome experience together!
Help us get the word out! Share this with others and pass it along, and let us know in the comments if you are planning on taking the plunge with us!
Don’t worry guys, Brad’s going to be posting his 10 ways to get your wife on board soon!