If you are following along with the 10 Day Challenge then it is very likely that today or tomorrow you might just hit the wall. I know you would have not thought it was possible, but it is very likely that you might not want sex with your spouse tonight. Or maybe you want it but you find your body doesn’t seem to respond with as much, shall we say, anticipation as it did a few days ago. This is the wall!
Most couples will feel this at some point during the challenge. Sure it is easy to roll over and say, “Hey 9 outa 10 aint bad, we’ll catch up tomorrow”, but I want to challenge you to try to make it over that wall.
Why Fight the Wall?
For one reason: Learning that your body’s sexual response sometimes does not happen before you start sexual intimacy. Let me explain. Most of us are used to thoughts leading to sexual arousal leading to having sex. But that is not the only path to having great, healthy sex. Sometimes you can make a decision to have sex, either because you want to meet a challenge, or because your spouse is interested. That decision can lead to actions which leads to foreplay, which eventually leads to arousal and great sex.
For some guys this might be the first time they recognize that they do not have to have a sex on the mind, before they have great sex. You might even discover that after you get over the wall you have really great sex. Why? Because if your arousal is delayed you spent more time, and sometimes that can end up being much better.
Most importantly, keep talking. Don’t be afraid to tell your wife, or husband that “I want to, but my body’s not quite there yet, let’s take some warm up time!” It is important to communicate what you are feeling and help your spouse know what they can do to help get the fires burning!
Day 5- Scripture Passage:
Song of Solomon Chapter 5
Day 5 Giveaway:
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