It’s that time wives, to rev up the engines for Sunday! As we get started and embark on this 10 day challenge journey there are a couple of things for you to remember.
Take it one day at a time
Don’t focus on anything but today. Many times when we set out to do a challenge such as the 10 Day Sex Challenge, we go into a mode of looking at the finish line instead of focusing on the stretch of road immediately before us. Keep your mind focused on spending time with your hubby today. In my last post I did mention checking your schedule to allow for more alone time in these 10 days. Once that is done set your focus on the present. Even though it may be hard we need to focus on thriving through life, not just surviving. That goes for the challenge as well. Simply being able to say that you completed the 10 days, while that is awesome is not the whole picture.
Remember it is about more than sex
So you made time once again for sex with your hubby! Well now we can check that off the “to do” list, right? The Challenge is about keeping the focus on intimacy and making every effort to spend quality time together, not just checking sex off the list (which I know we wives all have multiple lists running through our heads). Another good thing is to remind yourself each day to focus on intimate time with your hubby. Get your mind, body and emotions ready for that time together. Being present mentally is just as important as being their physically! If that means taking a relaxing bath first or asking your hubby to put the kids to bed, do what you need to in order to be all about spending time with your hubby!
Slow down, take a deep breath, relax and enjoy
Breath, ladies, just breathe! We have so much on our plates and so much on our minds. It can be a real mental block and mood killer when you are consumed by all that stuff. Stop yourself and breath, ask God to help you relax and focus on enjoying your hubby! If you can set your mind to doing all that is on your list, because I know how amazing you all are, then you can set your mind to amazing sex with your hubby!
Take the opportunity to reconnect in many different ways
Take time during these 10 days to nurture other intimate time with your hubby. Talk to him about the things he loves, rent a movie that is his favorite genre, read God’s word together, pray together, share your dreams for the future, etc! Spending this precious time either before or after sex to draw you deeper together in intimacy. Thinking of ways that you and your hubby can deepen your intimate bond. Thing emotional, spiritual and intellectual!
Daily ask God what is trying to show and how you can grow
With anything you do in your marriage, seeking God’s will and plan is a great place to start. We are all going into this challenge at different place in marriage, and every marriage is unique. We have a far from perfect marriage and are still learning what God wants to teach us. So we too will be seeking out how God desires to teach us through our 10 day challenge. Ask God what he wants you to learn. Ask where he would like to stretch and strengthen you. Ask how he would like you to bless your hubby. Ask Him to continue to create in you the wife he wants you to be. Not a wife, like your best friend or your mom, (although they may be wonderful examples) but the wife he wants you to be! I hope you have amazing women to look up to and glean from, but their husbands are one of a kind, created by God and so is you hubby. Pray and I believe God will show you the way to respect, love, serve and bless your hubby!
How are you getting ready for the 10 Day Challenge?