Have you ever found yourself reading a book and saying, “Yes! Yes! Yes! This lady knows what she is talking about?” Then you know how I felt while reading and gleaning through Sheila Gregoire’s new books, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun). Many of you may know Sheila as the author of the amazing blog, To Love, Honor and Vacuum. More importantly, Sheila is a wife just like the rest of us. She loves God and wants to serve Him. In serving God, she is passionate about His word for wives and, as we like to call it, our “one flesh” union. She has a wisdom and depth to her writing, she writes from her heart and experience and she shares her own struggles and joys about intimacy and marriage. She also challenges . . . challenges us to be amazing wives-in and out of the bedroom. Is it always easy-no, but it is greatly worth it and is a message that is near and dear to my heart.
Are you a Good Girl?
Do you want to be a Good Girl? Sheila’s take on this is great! We buy into a “Bad Girl” mentality of sex and therefore sell ourselves short as well as our husband. We have ALL done it ladies. We think that sex is shameful, or that only people with amazing bodies have great sex. We allow these lies to shape how we feel about ourselves, about our husband and about sex. Sheila deals with these lies head on!
The first aspect of this book that I LOVE, of which there are many, is that Sheila shares the practical. She doesn’t take anything for granted and explains how men and women work. How we are physically designed for sex. This is a great section for engaged women but also for those who never had someone talk to them about how sex physically works. I know you may be chuckling, but there are many women who may be afraid to admit that they know very little when it comes to the “mechanics” of sex. As a young bride, I knew basics, but I really wish I had this book to spell it all out for me. Wisdom and knowledge are a good thing when it comes to improving sex and intimacy. Sheila also shares great info on family planning and birth control methods as every marriage has to address these topics in one way or another.
Sheila does an amazing job of shedding light on the differences between men and women’s emotions about sex. I love that she addresses that even though differences can be a source of frustration at times, it is how God designed us to be. He did this for a reason and though we may struggle to see the benefit at times, the benefit is there. At times I lovingly look at my hubby and think, “wow we are so different.” Yet, I am able now to praise God for those differences. It is beautiful.
Women need and crave emotional connection before and leading up to sex. Our guys on the other hand, need and crave the emotional connection that sex brings and they feel fulfilled after sex. Unfortunately, many of us get stuck in our own selfish thinking, in our own selfish sexual desires. Understanding, your husband’s need for sex and how it affects his self-esteem, how he looks at himself, how he feels about work, how he feels about almost everything is vital to understanding him. So many times we wait for our hubby’s to fill us emotionally before we will make sex a priority. When the reality is that if you make sex a priority your hubby will most likely rise to the occasion and start meeting your emotional needs. As Sheila says “When we meet his needs, he starts to meet yours. It’s a give and take. But if you’re waiting for him to be affectionate and romantic before you make love, it may never happen.” (pg. 216) So true!
Truly there are so many good things to glean from this book and I want you to know how amazing it is. I hope that you will read it. Sheila doesn’t dodge the tough subjects; she shares openly about the hot topics and questions many women have: “Is oral sex ok?”, “What about sex toys” and “How about role-playing?”
Sheila discusses the common sexual issues or roadblocks with both men and women. She gives practical sound advice as to how to move forward in your marriage, making sex a priority as well as sacred. Sex is a spiritual act of worship that God created for husband and wife, only. Her emphasis on growing your friendship with your spouse is refreshing and challenging. Most of all it is her heart for Christ and His plan for marriage that, in my opinion makes this book a one of kind. At the heart of every answer she gives is Christ, His grace, His love and His plan for amazing sex in marriage. With Christ at the center of sex and marriage, we experience what it means to be one flesh!
“Sex is not about genitalia. It’s about relationship. When God said ‘the two shall become one flesh,’ he didn’t mean it only physically.” -YES!!!
God has created every one of us to be a “Good Girl”, dive into Sheila’s book to find out how! You won’t be sorry you did!
Sheila and her publisher have graciously given us an extra book to give away. To enter leave us a comment below and we will choose a random comment to win a copy of this amazing, practical, Christ-centered approach on marriage!
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