Kate’s most recent post, “Pleasing Him, Who, What and How!” encouraged wives to make sure that they were focusing not only on pleasing their husband and their family, but placing the center of their focus on Christ. There has been quite a bit said on other marriage blogs recently about those big words submission and headship. Kate recently did a good wrap up of the various posts in case you missed it. I’m not going to dive specifically into that area, but Kate’s post did get me thinking about what my role is in helping my wife and family, and myself for that matter, keep focused on Christ daily.
I could go on and on about the reasons that we as men need to be leading our family in focusing on Christ. I’m guessing that many of you already know the reasons. If you don’t, or don’t agree that we should be, then I will simply offer you this challenge: For the rest of the month do all of the ideas I list below, then if you still are wonder why it matters, or disagree that it makes a difference, come back and let me know!
I’m going to pass on the fluffy stuff and get down to business, the tricky HOW you can lead and guide yourself, your wife and your family in developing their faith and your spiritual intimacy.
Let’s Get Practical!
1. Pray For Them
Take 5 minutes every day to pray for each member of your family. Honesty, diligently pray for your wife, each of your kids and yourself! For me that would be 25 minutes a day. 25 minutes a day sounds like a lot, but the pay-off is great! Seeking God’s hand in their life, and his guidance in helping your interactions with them is critical!
2. Pray With Them
For those of you that participated in the 10 Day Challenge, we encouraged you to pray out loud with and for your wife. We did this because prayer together is one of the most intimate acts that you can do. Have you continued? It might have been easy in the bliss of 10 days of sex together, but life creeps in and the prayer time might have snuck out, if it has get back to it! Pray with your kids too. Not just at dinner time, but make it a habit! Take time to teach them what it means to have a real conversation with God, not just a quick thanks before diving into good food!
3. Kill the Sunday Sloth!
If you are like me, dragging yourself out of bed Sunday morning is not always easy. Usually, I manage to wake up somewhere between our garage and the church parking lot, but by that time my grumpy attitude has rubbed off on everyone else! Shake of the grump first thing and lead your family to church with the right attitude. I’m convinced that Sunday morning is the time our family is most attacked! Things work against us getting to church in a good mood, ready to worship. I’ve learned that I need to be in the fight against this attack not contributing to it!
4. Get Reading
If you are a regular Bible reader great! Do your kids know it? Does your wife see it? I recently recognized that my kids never saw me read my Bible because I spend my quiet time after they are in bed. Now I make a point to either let them see me read my Bible, or at least talk to them about what I’m reading. Set the example!
5. Practice before you Preach
We all fall short, we all mess up, but how you mess up matters. What you do, and what you do to fix it show vivid examples of where your focus really is! When you yell or curse inappropriately, do you ask forgiveness? Even from your kids? When you have a bad day does your wife see you relying of God, or giving up? Your family will see what you do in these times long before they take notice to other efforts you are making!
I’m sure there are other great practical ideas that many of you have. Share them in the comments, and let’s all take the month of March to focus on what we can do to lead ourselves, our wife and our family to a closer relationship with God! My guess is that some amazing things will happen when you focus on your family’s spiritual intimacy!