In case you don’t know a Man Cave is a male hide a way, such as a specially equipped den or basement where the guys can go to do as they please without fear of upsetting their wife’s sensibility about design, decor or cleanliness. It seems to be the new rage with men creating elaborate caves to retreat into. I just wonder if the space and money couldn’t be used to design a more manly, more appealing “couple’s cave”!
If you have a man cave or are planning one I have only one question. Is this supposed to be your space, or your hideaway?
I understand that need and desire for a bit of space. I think that men do need the ability to look around and see their impact on their home. That is actually what makes it feel like home. If your cave is dedicated to a hobby, activity, or simply a family room with your style I suppose it could be a healthy addition to your home. However, if you are feeling like you need a space of your own within your own home I would suggest that this is something you need to talk about with your wife! Maybe the real root of the issue is the pink bedroom rather than the need for space?
All too often I hear men talking about and joking about going to their man cave to get away from their wife. If you are running to a man cave to get away, this is a problem. Men are already so frequently disengaged from their wife and family that adding a private location to escape to only magnifies the problem.
I would like to suggest another idea. Maybe it will become the new cave craze. Rather then designing a top of the line man cave, create an exclusive, special, private “Couple’s Cave”. Spend all of the space, time and energy in designing a space where just you and your wife can go to get away together. Think what fun it could be with the two of you together!
Design for the Perfect Couple’s Cave
- A door with a good lock!
- A sitting area for the two of you
- Pictures of just the two of you on the walls, or even special pictures of just one of you.
- A wine rack or fridge with all the supplies
- Special mood lighting
- A nice iPod speaker and CD player
- Skip the TV and think about getting Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear from Sensuous Wife!
- This page show the liberator adventure line, on the sensuouswife.com and doesn’t contain nudity, but does have non-detailed drawings of couples using the products
You won’t be bringing the guys around to show off your new Cave, but trust me you will still be bragging about it!
What would you add to your perfect couple’s cave?