Men are in trouble! We have two choices; either we are a strong, yet insensitive, self-centered husband. Or we are a weak, lovie-dovie, cutsie one. The minute I say “a husband should be romantic” we picture this effeminate guy always working to make his wife happy. Yet when I talk about “husband’s leading the family” it is easy to only picture the angry power-hungry husband who doesn’t care at all!
I’m done being tossed between these two extremes, I’m going renegade! I’m leaving the traditions of men behind and forging a new path! I’m joining Kate’s revolution she started in her post, “The Radical Wife” and launching a movement of Renegade Husbands.
I want to walk through the rest of my days on earth with resilient authority, relentless love, and a furious longing to follow God’s heart and will in all areas of my life!
It is easy for people to understand and accept that respect is the way to speak love into a man’s heart. Somehow that same message gets lost when talking about a man’s need for leadership. Men desire leadership. Too often men have given up all leadership and authority in their home, and sometimes these men react as if they are owed it back. Renegade husbands understand that leadership is not default because we are a man, a husband or a father; real leadership is earned. Real resilient authority is earned by serving. Renegade husbands are not generals in cushy office barking orders; they are the captains stepping into the line of fire FIRST! We lead by doing, by example, by our lives. As we lead we build authority with our family to trust our decisions and follow us when we lead! Every step of a renegade husband’s authority is walked out in direct connection to his relentless love for his wife and family.
Men often love with expectations. They love when they are loved, or they love to get something. Men pour out their love in verse, actions and attention when they are dating, or maybe when the mood (or the urge) strikes. Unfortunately, men also carry around an opinion that showing love or any emotion is connected with weakness. They portray the opinion that any husband that chooses to spend time with his wife over hanging with the boys is sissified and whipped.
Jesus taught, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” (Matthew 5:44) Renegade husbands understand that if Jesus wanted us to love those who hate us, then how much more is expected of us towards our wife and family. Even in the times when we are upset, we still find and act out of relentless love towards our wife!
Where do renegade husbands find the strength, vision, and encouragement to become and remain renegades? Only by daily chasing after God. How hard should you look? Remember last time you lost your wallet or credit card? A thump of panic is followed by a furious search mentally and physically combing every possible location until it is found. Proverbs 2:4 says this is EXACTLY how we are to chase after the wisdom to understanding the will of God! Daily. Furiously. Passionately. Mentally and physically searching after God’s heart for our lives and for our family!
Will you join me?
Will you be a Renegade Husband?
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