We talk all the time about the journey to a one flesh marriage. For some of you this journey seem more like a dream, or a distant memory. Marriage doesn’t seem like a journey at all rather it is a challenging difficult time of feeling alone and desiring together.
If this is the case, don’t give up hope! The journey toward a great marriage can be started by forging on ahead, alone. You can start the journey of a one flesh marriage as a journey of one.
In order for one spouse to effectively start making changes in the marriage it is going to take patience, focus, and a lot of prayer! We are going to spend the next week giving you ideas, tips, prayers, and thoughts to get your ready for the challenging journey ahead.
Start With Prayer
So much of what happens in marriage conflict is based on cycles. He’s frustrated so he gets distant. His being distant scares her so she pushes. Her push comes off as nagging so he gets frustrated. Round and round we go, and unless someone stops nothing will ever change.
Knowing what to stop, knowing how to break the cycle is the most challenging part of making a change alone. You must start by asking God to open your eyes to the things that you do that are adding to the marriage stress. Pray and listen! He will show you if you honestly want to have your eyes opened.
Research Your Spouse
Step two on this journey alone is some difficult research about you and your spouse. You need to be able to answer 2 questions as if your spouse was answering them. You need to be able to hear and understand what they are saying, although they may not be saying them in very nice ways, so get ready!
What Am I Doing That I Shouldn’t?
What Am I Not Doing That They Need?
These two area will be what you focus on in your journey to make changes! This will not be easy! Listen with love and take the answers to God in prayer to help sort out what you need to do.
I promise you when one spouse makes changes, it can make all the difference in the world! I know, because I was the spouse that noticed the change after Kate dove deep with God and started making changes in our marriage!
Later in this series I’ll tell you my part of Our Story, and how I started to notice the changes, for now lets just say this blog wouldn’t be written if Kate hadn’t followed God’s call and made a step of faith!
Are you on a journey alone? Let us know how we can pray for you in the comments!
Have you walked a journey from alone back to together? Share your story and give others some encouragement!