Kate says . . .
As we are coming closer to Christmas, my busy season of photography will be coming to a close. So you know what that means, my kitchen floor hasn’t been mopped in, well I can’t remember the last time and the rest of our house needs a good scrubbing as well. In my job I have the pleasure of meeting many different and unique couples. I love to hear their stories as they share them with me while capturing these precious moments for them. It is an honor I do not take lightly.
One couple I was working with, asked after their family pictures, if we could take a picture of just the two of them-husband and wife. She looked at her hubby, gave him a fist bump and said, “After all we were the original two, right?” That brought a smile to my face right away and I told them how awesome that was.
How easy it is to lose our identity as the original two when our awesome kids enter the picture. In many ways our identity as a family does change and it has to. However our children enter our lives, they need us and it is our job to raise them as Jesus has called us. On the other hand it is vital to our marriage and to God’s design for marriage to keep the original two separate at times from the rest of the crew.
In keeping the original two-visible we can do things like date nights and weekends away. Those things are so important and every marriage should work hard to keep those apart of your marriage. Aside from those, I think how we treat each other in front of the rest of the “crew,” is also just as important.
Oh how little ones love to interrupt things. It comes from the beginning of life and needing everything and goes until they desire complete independence. When your kids get to an age where they can understand that interrupting conversations is not nice, it is a good time to stop allowing them to interrupt you and your hubby while you are talking. This is something that has really been a positive for both us- the original two and our kids. It gives us the time we need to talk and shows the kids that while we are a family, they are not the center of our world. It also is a great modeling of marriage for when they are married and have kids.
Mommy and Daddy Time
Maybe it is 10 minutes each day, perhaps it is every Friday morning. Whatever time you have free and can ear mark as just mommy and daddy time-do it! Encourage your kids that this is time for them to play together or perhaps watch their favorite show together. Take a little time out regularly for just the two of you.
First Hello and Last Goodbye
Whether you both work or not, when you are saying goodbye for the day, be sure that your kids go first then you last. When coming home, you get to be first and the kids next. The original two, first!
It’s in the Little Things
These are all common enough things, but it is the little things that can help keep the original two focused. The big things such as weekends away are so great. I look forward to them for weeks, months even! Yet the little things sustain us and keep us connected on a daily basis. It is the attention to the needs of our spouse and marriage daily. Don’t you think the original two deserve it?