Marriage Ammunition

Kate says . . .

Can I get any hands of people who have ever read a marriage resource and found yourself focused on what your hubby isn’t doing rather than on what you should be doing? I know that I have done that in the past and I am imagining that every wife has done that at one time or another. I love what Brad shared in his last post, Tear the Book in Half, resources are great, but not if they are stumbling block for you and your marriage.

Are you looking for lessons or ammunition?

Another danger that is just as hazardous is using resources such as blogs, books or a conference to give yourself marriage ammunition. It is always best to experience these resources together, or at least talk about them together, but we understand that many wives and husbands end up working on changing their marriage on their own. Whether you are seeking out information to grow or to be a tool to addressing marriage issues, you need to be asking God to keep you from these pitfalls.

5 Responses to Marriage Ammunition

  1. These are all great comments and ones worth reading and then thinking really thinking how we should should respond in kind to our spouses. God wants us first and foremost – to love him with all our heart, mind, body and soul. It is only then that we can truly pass that love on to another – and also give of ourselves to our ‘soulmate’/husband/wife.

    There have been many times where all of the books (such as Love & Respect by Eggerichs)(one of many) I read and try to put “we” or “us” .. meaning both of us have to make some changes. It isn’t just about what my husband does right or wrong .. but, more about what we do together and apart.
    The hurt comes with a ‘book’s suggestion on how to treat your spouse. When your spouse is separated in distance and otherwise ‘divorced’ from the relationship (I’m married for life, he is divorced), I find that often I have to put down the books and stop reading because it hurts too much.
    I know that God brought me back to the place where I need to be.. and that means being obedient to His word and not that of man.
    I cannot control what has happened from a legal/secular world.. I can and do accept God’s will in my life that He is the one in control. Every day I pray for Him to give me strength and leave my husband in His able hands so that one day by God’s grace our marriage will be restored.

    • Hi Karen,

      I can understand where you are coming from. I think you have the right mindset and setting down the book for those reasons, is a good move.

      God is the God of restoration. No gap is too big for God, not even divorce! Keep serving and loving and holding on to that! God will NEVER leave you alone! Thank you for sharing where you are and what you are learning! Blessings, Kate

    • That sounds like a very interesting read! Will have to put it on my “to read” list! Thanks, Michelle! Blessings, Kate

      • Just realized that I HAVE it on Kindle! Must have gotten it for free-sweet! Will definitely be checking it out! 🙂