If your husband is a lingerie lover, have you ever wondered why he loves lingerie? Have you fought hard to smile every time another slinky negligee, teddy, or sexy corset is wrapped up as a present? The truth behind that silky garment is more than meets the eye! We love what meets the eye, but it is the messages that lingerie is communicating that gets our attention.
We Love the Availability
Lingerie says, “Yes”, one word that we love to hear. Not only does it say yes, but it communicates a very strong and sensual yes, an excited to be with you yes. These are absolutely wonderful words for all husbands regardless how frequent the sexual intimacy is in your marriage. For couples who have less frequent intimacy, lingerie takes out the guess work, wondering and trying, that sometimes challenge men to be Romeo and Sherlock Holmes at the same time. When you slip on “something more comfortable” we love the strong and resounding yes we hear.
We Love the Looking
Lingerie says, “Please look” two words that every guy loves to hear from his wife. Ladies your husband loves your body and he loves looking at it. While an “in the dark, under the covers romp” is sometimes fun, lingerie is all about looking! We love it! We want to step back and soak in all the beauty that is radiating off of you! We want to let our eyes dance over those sexy curves and just enjoy the view. Lingerie not only allows us to do that but asks us to, and we love it!
We Love the Build Up
Lingerie says “let’s take our time tonight.” Has your regular sexual intimacy become closer to a quickie over the years? Even when we slow things down sometimes they can still go pretty quickly. Lingerie is a great way to let us slow things down, enjoy the view and slowly unwrap the evening.
We Love the Excitement
Lingerie says “I’m excited to be with you tonight.” Behind every man’s desire for sex is an equally strong desire for his wife’s pleasure. We really want you to feel good. Making you feel good makes us feel great! When you put on lingerie you are in essence showing him you are sexually desiring him, which is a huge way to boost your husband’s self-esteem and show him you desire him!
We Love the Gift
Lingerie says, “I’m yours.” We know that you aren’t dressing up like that for anyone other than us and that you are doing it simply for our enjoyment. That is a huge turn on. Knowing that you have thought about what we would like and then you not only bought it, but made time to wear it is a huge gift. We know that you are subconscious, we know that you might not love all the same curves that we do, and we know that you are making yourself vulnerable all for us. It is a huge and awesome gift! It makes us feel very special and is one of the biggest reasons why we love it!
We Love the Wow
Lingerie says, “Wow!” One of the exciting things about lingerie is the potential wow factor. When we least expect it you can surprise us with a wow! Seeing you in lingerie when it was totally unexpected has the ability to make our eyes pop like Bugs Bunny! It is exciting, alluring, enticing and awesome!
Give It Another Try
Next time your hubby smiles at the lingerie drawer or hints at how nice it would be to see you in something slinky try not to roll your eyes. Consider all of the amazing things you can say all with one sexy piece of lingerie.
Before you sigh and think about dusting off some antique you got from your grandmother at your bridal shower you might want to consider finding something new. There are many different types and styles that can flatter and excite anew! I recommend that you visit this great site with your husband and ask him what style he likes. We like Husband and Wife because of the wide variety of styles that are all shown on mannequins so that the only body he will be seeing it on is your own.
Men, did I miss any messages that lingerie communicates that makes your heart skip a beat?
Ladies, Kate’s post to husbands letting them know what you are thinking about that lingerie is up next. What messages do you want guys to know that would help you be more likely to give lingerie a try?