In a rare turn of events I’m writing this post to all of the wives…
There is a fire that burns inside of every husband. It is a desire that is at least as strong as the desire to have sex with his wife. He may not speak about it often, but he will chase this desire every time he is in bed with you. It is the desire to give you great sexual pleasure.
There is nothing like the sight and sound of your wife’s sexual pleasure. Seeing her enjoy sex is honestly as good, or at least almost as good as enjoying it yourself. Being able to bring you pleasure through his touch is something that every husband longs for. Your sexual satisfaction can bring him a feeling of great pleasure and even pride. He will feel strong, powerful, vigorous and manly. All emotions that husbands needs to feel now and again!
Missing the Mark
Many of the different things we try in the bedroom are rooted in our desire to find the right combination of touches that unlocks the hidden treasure of your sexual pleasure. Kiss here, touch this, rub that, brush, kiss, push, repeat.
Many husbands don’t have a clue what will bring about those magic feelings, but we sure want to try to make it happen! This is especially true if sexual intimacy is something that is not as frequent as we would like it to be. We think, “If I was a better lover, and I could just bring my wife sexual pleasure then she would want to have sex more often”.
There is a lot of faulty thinking in that statement, but that doesn’t stop your husband from thinking it! Remember those feelings I said that guys get from bringing you sexual pleasure? Well, if it isn’t happening then it is a source of the exact opposite feelings. If he isn’t bringing you pleasure, or if he doesn’t know how to bring you sexual pleasure regularly then he is feeling weak, ashamed, powerless and impotent. Feelings that won’t remain just in the bedroom and can quickly rob the intimacy from your marriage.
Cue Me Baby!
Guess what, that same husband who totally missed your facial cue about how the day was, is now finely attuned to your every shudder and breath! Trust me; he knows the exact move, touch or twitch that causes even the slightest change in your breathing pattern. Why? Because he wants to give you great pleasure, but he doesn’t want to ask you how to make it happen!
Just Ask For Directions
What guy do you know that ever asked directions for anything? Do you really think he is going to ask you how to bring you sexual pleasure? I don’t think so! I wish I could just tell guys to, “man up and ask her what she likes” (and I will) but in reality that probably isn’t going to happen. Here in lies the problem, we desperately want to go there, but if we don’t know how and we won’t ask for directions how in the world are we going to get there?
It’s Up To YOU!
Ladies your husband needs you! He needs you to help him bring you great sexual pleasure! Here are 5 ways you can help us give you amazing pleasure.
1. Let Us Pleasure You!
All too often sex is relegated to “letting him finish”. That isn’t sexual intimacy and it is simply not any husband’s ideal! Honestly! We want you there, not only physically but mentally too! Check back in and see if you can’t use some of the rest of these tips to improve your experience.
2. Cue Us Please!
We’re watching, we notice the signs. So use them! If something is feeling good then let us know. If he changes and it doesn’t feel good tell him, “That was feeling good do that again”. He won’t mind, really!
3. Touch Matters
Your husband knows that touch is an important factor in bringing both of you sexual pleasure. But the appropriate combination of, light but not too light, and in all the right places, at the right times has us completely confused. Let alone that the combination changes based on your cycle, the day of the week, the time of the day, the number of times the kids have said “mom” in the last hour, the loads of laundry needing to be done…
Help us out, put in your mind that the goal of your husband’s touch is searching for ways to bring you pleasure. Then direct his touch toward what is feeling good at the moment. Positive statements like, “that feels good” work best, but “try here” or “lighter” work well too.
4. Touch Me Here Baby
For many, if not most couples, direct clitoral stimulation is required to bring you the great sexual pleasure you are seeking. If this is a completely new concept then he is going to need some direction to know what to do. Help him; trust me he will not mind! If this isn’t a new concept he still might need some coaching on the nuances that feel the best.
5. It’s Not Over…
Just because he’s climaxed does not mean that sexual intercourse is done. Clitoral stimulation can happen before or after penetration. It is a good plan that for most times you are sexually intimate together to keep going until both of you reach that point of pleasure. That doesn’t have to be all the time, but most. Don’t think that you are being selfish, remember he wants to bring you pleasure. So keep going, you’ll both be grateful you did!
Bonus: 6. The 10 Day Challenge is a great place to practice this! And it starts February 5th!
How have you helped your husband find ways to give you sexual pleasure too? Let us know in the comments!
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