It will happen, it might not be today, it might not be tomorrow, but sometime during this challenge you will hit a wall. You will have that “I could pass on sex today” thought. This might be a regular thought for you, or this might be the very first time you have ever had this thought. When you hit that wall you have some choices to make.
If you are the lower drive spouse this “wall hitting” might not be a new experience for you. You still have a choice, do you pass on sex today waiting for your drive to grow again, or do you push forward, allowing your mind to catch up.
Often, our minds will develop desire only after our body has started experiencing sensations. I encourage you to continue with the challenge and learn or relearn the art of climbing over the wall.
If you are the high drive spouse than take this “wall hitting” opportunity to understand how your spouse feels. They hit this wall on a regular basis. Take this opportunity to understand what it means when they say things like, “let me get my head around it”, or “I don’t yet, but maybe later”.
They are recognizing your desire and working to get over a wall. Your understanding what this is like will dramatically improve your sexual communication and intimacy.
You both have things you can learn about sexual intimacy together. Today pray that God will continue to use your time in the challenge to teach you how you can be a better husband / wife to the spouse that he has given you.
Washing in the Word
Excerpts from Song of Solomon 4 (NLT)
Husband (to wife) You have captured my heart,
my treasure, my bride.
You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes,
with a single jewel of your necklace.
Your love delights me,
my treasure, my bride.
Your love is better than wine,
your perfume more fragrant than spices.
Your lips are as sweet as nectar, my bride.
Honey and milk are under your tongue.
Your clothes are scented
like the cedars of Lebanon.
You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride,
secluded spring, a hidden fountain.
Your thighs shelter a paradise of pomegranates
with rare spices—
henna with nard and saffron,
fragrant calamus and cinnamon,
with all the trees of frankincense, myrrh, and aloes,
and every other lovely spice.
You are a garden fountain, a well of fresh water
streaming down from Lebanon’s mountains.
10 Day Challenge – Day 5 Giveaway!
We have 2 great prizes for today’s giveaway!
Tony & Lauren Dungy’s book: Uncommon Marriage: What We’ve Learned about Lasting Love and Overcoming Life’s Obstacles Together.
Tony and Lauren share the secrets that hold them together, revealing what they’ve learned so far about being a good husband or wife; getting through times of loss, grief, or change; staying connected despite busy schedules; supporting each other’s dreams and goals; and helping each other grow spiritually. They offer encouragement and practical advice to equip your marriage to survive tough issues and flourish with joy, purpose, and partnership—in other words, to be a marriage that is truly uncommon. Today’s winner will get a copy of the book and the great Uncommon Marriage Bible Study to go with it!
That’s not all! In addition to the great books today’s winner will get an awesome Love Sign to hang in your house or bedroom, created by a dear friend Connie B.
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