Day 6- Come On Baby Light My Fire

Brad says…

You’ve made it to day 6! Six days of sharing and growing intimacy in your marriage. Six days of finding time and connecting with each other! Today to keep the challenge going guys, I want you to consider how you can turn up the heat.10-Day-Challenge-day-6

No I’m not talking sexually, that is probably already at a pretty high temperature. I’m talking about how you can help turn up the heat emotionally.

Think about how you can say and show those three little words all of us need to her, “I Love You”. Think about her love language, think about her, and go out of your way to light her emotional fire today!

Prayer Point

Pray that God will grow your ability to show your spouse just how much you love them.

Washing in the Word

Excerpts from Song of Solomon 5 (NLT)
Husband (to wife) I have entered my garden, my treasure, my bride!
I gather myrrh with my spices
and eat honeycomb with my honey.
I drink wine with my milk.
Oh, lover and beloved, eat and drink!
Yes, drink deeply of your love!

Wife (to husband) I slept, but my heart was awake,
when I heard my lover knocking and calling:
“Open to me, my treasure, my darling,
my dove, my perfect one.
My lover is dark and dazzling,
better than ten thousand others!

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22 Responses to Day 6- Come On Baby Light My Fire

  1. The Challenge has been great! I think all couples should try. I love being intimate with my wife. Sometimes with daily routines you lose sight of intimacy but we definitely are focused on each other. Our marriage is our #1 priority and everything else is secondary. Love you Christa! Thanks again Brad and Kate!

  2. This challenge has been a lot of fun. It’s no pressure because it’s a “yes” every night, no if’s and’s or but’s. When you know your spouse’s love language, it can really be a blessing.

  3. I love the sex positive message here. FarAboveRubies is right – no pressure, no missed signals or secret codes to crack, its a YES. Guaranteed – no rejection.

    • Amen! There is some really cool things that happen in relationships when we take that element out! I think that can be one of the big lessons from the challenge!

  4. Our fires have been lit alright, but unfortunately it’s the fever and sickness kind that is making it’s rounds through our family. Needless to say, we’ve already lost the 10 day challenge and will need to look for a rain date.

  5. Yes the challenge can be hard… The wife and I have done this the last few years. We have been married 21 years and our sex life has gotten better as we have gotten older and we look forward to being together as often as possible. We have also been able to connect more on every level.

  6. My husband definitely does this. He has some words and phrases that are just for me and always bring a smile to my face. I love how my husband makes me feel so special even after all these years of marriage.

    • I wish I could do a study on people’s marriages who do the challenge and who don’t and compare the amount of “love comments” they share. I’m guessing (totally unscientific way) that more couples are just like you. It is something that happens frequently in their marriage, which opens the doors to the sexual intimacy that they both desire! Thanks for sharing!

  7. My love language is physical touch. So that can pretty easily carry into sexual arena for my hubby and I. We frequently pinch each other’s rears. It’s not necessarily a sexual gesture all the time tho, I feel like it can also communicate “we’re ok”.

  8. Turning up the heat today would involve getting the heater to work–literally. It’s 62 degrees with the space heater right beside me. The rest of the house is much colder.

  9. I love the reaction we get from our friends when we tell them that we are doing the 10 day challenge. We have to be outspoken if we are to inspire others to improve their marriage. *channeling the Blues Brothers* “We’re on a mission from God.”

    • That is awesome Dave! You will get the chuckle at first, and then I promise several of them will come back to you and say, “how did you get to a place where you could do that challenge thing.”

      We’ve seen it happen over and over. When people see growing marriages they are drawn to them like a moth to a flame. People are desperate for positive healthy marriages. This is why I’m so passionate about the local church becoming a place of growing marriage. I honestly believe that can do more to spread the love of Christ than most anything else!

  10. It really is difficult to feel sexy when the room is in fact physically cold. I know you are talking emotionally, but physical comfort of the opposite spouse is important as well.

    • Yes, Kate joked when I wrote the title, “are you sure you don’t want them to light real fires!” Cold can offer challenges, but snuggling together does awesome things for warmth in both areas too!

      • Yup. Last night we snuggled together and fell asleep! Well we missed “sex time” but still got in the one on one personal time that we need. Try again tonight 🙂

  11. So I’m trying to keep a positive attitude here, as I normally allow myself to think negatively when I read about the great sex lives of others. Being the higher drive wife is hard, hard, hard! Feeling undesired is a tough, yucky feeling, especially when most women’s husbands desire them intensely. I long to know what that feels like. To make matters worse, my husband loves to tell me how much he loves me over and over and over again – but to me – talk is cheap! It’s like I’m abnormal, I know most women would love the love talk and the cuddling, but oh how I’d love to be desireable to my husband.
    Okay so on to the positive part. I wanted to suggest the challenge, but I knew now wouldn’t be a good time. So I went out on a huge limb and told him about it, and suggested we maybe try it in the spring. He seemed receptive. So that’s good. See, my husband works outside every day, and it is freezing here, literally single digit temps. He also starts work around 5:30 am. So when he comes home, he usually showers, eats dinner, and falls fast asleep. It would be unfair of me to put that kind of pressure on him right now, when he is simply exhausted. He’s not into sex every day on a good day, so expecting that from him when he’s exhausted would be setting us both up for failure and hard feelings. Anyhow, I’m encouraged that he’s even willing to consider it for the spring.
    (Although, there is that negative voice that tells me “if you were a little thinner or a little hotter, he’d be just as into you as most men are into their wives”) I’ve been working to silence that voice, but it is hard, hard, hard!
    For the rest of you, keep up the good work! The fact that your husbands want you that much is a huge, huge blessing. Cherish it!