Day 8 – Sexual Conversation

Kate says . . .

Have you ever asked your husband or wife, what they like sexually? I know, I know, that is a tough one, right? It is a question that makes you feel vulnerable.

Maybe before this challenge you would have never thought of asking that question. But now you have had several days of intimacy growing together. Now is a great time to have the conversation, get to know each other better and grow.

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Here are a few questions to get you started:

  • What is your favorite position?
  • Why do you like it that way?
  • Where do you like to be touched or kissed?
  • Is there anything I’ve done that you would like me to do more of?

These are tough questions that can make you blush. Even though, I encourage you to work through that uncomfortable feeling. While you are asking, and listening to their answer remembering that you need to receive what they are saying. Don’t see it as an attack just an answer of preferences and desires. Really work to have a conversation to sexually understand each other better.

Prayer Point

Pray for your sexual intimacy. God cares about it too! Pray that he would teach both of you to be better lovers!

Washing in the Word

Excerpts from Song of Solomon 7 (NLT)
Husband (to wife) How beautiful are your sandaled feet,
O queenly maiden.
Your rounded thighs are like jewels,
the work of a skilled craftsman.
Your navel is perfectly formed
like a goblet filled with mixed wine.
Between your thighs lies a mound of wheat
bordered with lilies.
Your breasts are like two fawns,
twin fawns of a gazelle.
Oh, how beautiful you are!
How pleasing, my love, how full of delights!
You are slender like a palm tree,
and your breasts are like its clusters of fruit.
I said, “I will climb the palm tree
and take hold of its fruit.”
May your breasts be like grape clusters,
and the fragrance of your breath like apples.
May your kisses be as exciting as the best wine

10 Day Challenge – Day 8 Giveaway!

Today’s 10 Day Challenge post is sponsored by Shannon Ethridge who is giving away two of her awesome books: The Passion Principles: Celebrating Sexual Freedom in MarriageThe Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts.

Shannon is a million-copy best-selling author, international speaker, and advocate for healthy sexuality. We are thankful to call her friend and partner in reaching marriages.

God’s desire is for couples to enjoy passionate sexual relationships without inhibition, awkwardness, fear, resentment, guilt, or shame. The Passion Principlesopens the minds of both husbands and wives to consider how to move beyond the mechanics of sex to cultivate a rich and rewarding connection.

Introduced in Genesis, God’s design for sex, beyond procreation, is to offer connection and pleasure for marriage partners. But also in Genesis is an outline of seven sexual fallacies that bring discord, pain, and brokenness. The Fantasy Fallacy helps explain the basis for these fallacies and offers insights to help expose not only the meaning behind them, but ways to face them, heal from them, and find physical, emotional, and spiritual freedom.

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9 Responses to Day 8 – Sexual Conversation

  1. I love the topic starters you gave, these can be very very hard talks to have with your spouse and knowing how to frame the question really helps to crack the ice and perhaps learn something about them that you didn’t know or was perhaps was taking for granted … or what they would like more or less of :()

  2. Would love to get my hands on those books! If i don’t win a copy, I will be buying one 🙂 thank you guys for doing what you do!

  3. It is easy for my wife and I to talk about what we like and don’t like makes it easier for us to please each other.

  4. Never really sat down and thought of really asking those deep questions.. We will have to go over the list and also see if we can come up with more questions. Wife and I are not really that embarrassed to talk about sex and all those hot topics so it should not be that hard to do. Thanks Brad and Kate for all you do.