Kate says . . .
We started dating when I was 16 and Brad was 17. We went to different colleges and finally got married 6 years later at our parent’s request to finish college first. We were married at ages 21 and 23. We married young. We were kids and we have the pictures that prove it.
I don’t regret it one bit. There are benefits to marrying young that I believe our society has left behind. I realize that not everyone meets the person they feel they are to spend their life with, while they are young and there is nothing they can do about that. You should not just marry someone while you are young because you can. On the other hand believing you need to wait until you are established (not sure what everyone means by that) and in your 30’s to marry does not have to be a trend. So what exactly are the benefits to marrying young?
We Grew Up Together
I know many people say this, but it is true. I have done as much growing up with Brad next to me as I did with my siblings. Even more in many areas of my life. We have learned so much about life, love, people, hurt, lose, grace and God’s amazing love for his people. We experienced much of our adolescents and all of our adulthood together. It has been an amazing, confusing journey. It has refined us and revealed much about who we are. Even though our story wasn’t easy in the beginning, growing up together has been a precious opportunity I am so thankful we did not miss. I hope our kids have the same opportunity that we did.
We achieved our dreams and goals together
We all dream and have goals we want to accomplish in our lives. Being married young has allowed Brad and I to experience those things together. Being each other’s number one fan and supporter. Having my other family and friends around me was a blessing, but none quite as unique or special as having Brad with me for all of them. Just doesn’t get any better than sharing those dreams with the love of your life!
Fewer relationships-less baggage
Our journey has not always been easy. In fact at times it was downright hard and heartbreaking. Sex was not always fun or easy. As we have shared openly, we waited to have sex until we were married. I am positive we crossed lines we should not have while dating for 6 years, but we managed to wait. Sex was still a challenge for us. It was a challenge and we didn’t have any baggage of past partners. I am thankful that we did not also have the hurdle of past sexual relationships to get over as well. There is no guarantee that if we do as God asks, that everything will be easy. But when we follow what God asks, we have the best opportunity for living the marriage God desires.
Experienced the life stages together
Teens, 20’s, 30’s and soon 40’s – we have gone through all of them together. The emotional, spiritual and physical changes that come as we grow and change. Brad is soon turning 40 and I won’t be far behind him. I cannot wait to celebrate the amazing man of God I am married to, this year and every year as he grows and changes. I am in awe of who he is and that he chose to spend his life next to me!
One of the biggest reasons I am thankful to have married young is simply, grace. Marriage and my wise, handsome, forgiving man have taught me so much about God’s love for us and his grace that covers ALL of us. Brad is a beautiful tool that God has used to shower me with grace. And there is simply nothing I can better do in life than to grasp onto grace.
Did you marry young? Do you agree?
Did you purposefully wait till you were established? Why did you choose that? Let us know in the comments!