We have an “issue” in our sex life

Kate says,

I am convinced that ALL marriages at some point will have an “issue” in their sex life. I am also certain that if the church was honest, many of the couples would say that the “issues” have been substantial and had the potential to cripple their marriage. Brad and I have had our issues and challenges in the 15 years we have been married. We also know that with life changing, there will be more hurdles to overcome. Yet, how we choose to approach and look at those issues as they arise in our sexual intimacy can have a great impact on whether we get through them together or allow them to drive a big wedge in our marriage. How have you chosen to handle the issues and hurdles that have surfaced in your sexual intimacy?Brad & Kate-189

When there is a sex issue how do you approach it?

I am broken

When issues come up in sex, and they will, one spouse is usually the one dealing with the issue. No matter the issue, there is a feeling of being broken. “Something isn’t right with me. My spouse is ok, but I am not, I am broken.” When I struggled with low desire for years, I felt broken. What was wrong with me, that I didn’t want sex as much as I should?

3 Things You Need to Bring About Change in Your Marriage

Kate says . . . “I want to change, know that I need to change, but have no idea how to change.” 1. Pray Nothing is going to happen of your own strength. Well, nothing that is lasting will come from your own strength. If you want to change you are going to need help….

Marriage Operating System

I saw this online and had to share it! Too funny, but the Tech Support’s advice isn’t the best. What advice would you give? Leave it in a comment! (c) we didn’t write this one, but didn’t know who to give credit to….  

You Look Great! No I Don’t

Brad says… Husband; “Wow, Hun you look great.” Wife; “No I don’t.” Every guy I know says that they have had this conversation with their wife countless times. Kate’s post, “I’m Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore“, and my still wildly popular “I Don’t Find My Wife Attractive Anymore” brought up the extremes of dealing…

I’m Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore

Kate says . . . There are a handful of our posts, that even though we wrote them long ago, get comments daily. One of those posts is, I Don’t Find My Wife Attractive Anymore. It is no shocker that attraction and desire are huge in marriage, or is it?? This is the flip-flop post…

I Kissed Dating Hello

Kate says . . . There are a handful of our posts, which even though we wrote them long ago, get comments daily. One of those posts is, I Don’t Find My Wife Attractive Anymore. It is no shocker that attraction and desire are huge issues in marriage, or is it?? This is the flip-flop post…

Hubby’s Down Time

Kate says . . . Wives, I think we are all on common ground when we talk about the challenging balance of encouraging vs. being frustrated with our husband’s hobbies and down time. When you were reading Brad’s post, Marriage on Minecraft, you were probably thinking, “what about us?” As women we are able to…

Marriage on Minecraft

Brad says… Minecraft is an addictingly simple computer game that is all the rage in 8 to 12-year-old boys. Since I have 2 of those I recently have done the fatherly things of falling under its clutches too. As I’ve fallen under Mincraft’s spell I’ve learned a few marriage lessons that I wanted to pass…

7 Reasons Marriage Rocks

Brad says, Kate’s post, 7 Reasons I Love Being Married added to the list of people stepping forward to shout to the hilltops why marriage is awesome! Our culture often has a mindset that marriage will be good for the first few years, but after you leave the honeymoon phase that blah is just normal….

7 Reason I LOVE Being Married

Kate says . . . A handful of amazing marriage bloggers started the trend so I decided to add my thoughts, because I am seriously in love with being married. Especially to my hot, handsome man! There are many people around us that are not so excited about their marriages, so why are we so…