Breaking the Addiction: The Real and the Raw

Kate says…

After I wrote, The Addiction in Marriage No One Talks About, many of you contacted or commented asking to know how I surrendered control. I decided to share with you my journey which is very real and raw. This is my journey of giving up control in household stuff, finances, kids, and in the bedroom. It wasn’t a quick journey and this isn’t a short post, but hang with me and see where God might be leading you to break your addiction to control.

These are the ways and the places that God worked through my heart, breaking me so that I could be wholly His and be the wife he desired for me. God deeply cares for each of you as wives and wants to bless you and your hubby, in ways you could never imagine. Nothing we have ever done or will do can separate us from that love. Romans 6:36-39

Household Stuff

Ahh, what a dream it would be to have a super clean house all clutter gone and all chores done. To be honest, I necouple talkingver have had a perfectly clean house. Not even close, really. And yet, I fought the feeling of, “Just let me finish these dishes and laundry and then I’ll spend some time with you!”

In the beginning it was my honest hope and then it became a crutch on which I lived so that I could have control over my house and also not have to face my hubby and his looks of longing and desire. As for cleaning and chores I started to give myself time limits on all house hold stuff, because if I didn’t I would never stop.

Marriage Friendly Church

Brad says… I dream of a day when there are as many Marriage Pastors as their currently are Youth Pastors. Youth pastors are important, don’t get me wrong, but I dream of the day when the church pays as much attention to the ministry of marriage as they do the other parts of the family….

Husband Leadership 101

Brad says… When people use words like lead and follow, about marriage most of us have a gut reaction to them. Your reaction may be positive or negative depending on your views and experiences. However, when pressed most people have no clue what these things actually look like. To make it even more difficult the idea and…

The Addiction In Marriage No One Talks About

Kate says . . . I have an addiction. It’s real, it’s hard and it threatens to take me over. It is something I have wrestled with since the beginning of our marriage, something that makes me angry; angry for wanting it and at the same time angry when I don’t have it. I want…

Broken Oneness

Kate says . . . In marriage, God design is to draw a husband and a wife to oneness. “They shall no longer be two, they will be one flesh.” We named our blog and ministry One Flesh, because as God was working in us, we felt so strongly that we were finally growing together…

Wife’s Gift Guide to Knock Your Hubby’s Socks Off! 2014 Edition

Kate says . . . It’s that time of year when we get to spend time with family and friends and eat lots of yummy food and treats. As we focus on celebrating our Savior’s birth, we also have the unique opportunity to celebrate Christmas with your hubby, and at the same time to love…

Christmas Gift Guide to Wow Your Wife – 2014 edition

Brad says… It’s that time again! The time of year when men’s thoughts turn to Christmas sex only to remember that they need to pick out that perfect Christmas present first. The art of picking the perfect Christmas present for your wife is always a challenge. It has to be something practical enough that she…

Not Tonight Dear and Other Ways to Say Yes To Sex

Kate says . . . Every Thursday night we spend the evening with a group of amazing married people at our church going through the re|engage marriage program at our church. I never get tired of going to re|engage. I love to interact with married couples and see couples interacting with each other. This week…

12 Ways to Ask for Sex Tonight

Brad says… Having sex tonight or not, may have more to do with how you ask than anything else. Desire is important, but asking for sex in a way that will be received by your wife is the real challenge. The goal is to make your desire for intimacy known in a way that doesn’t completely…

Is Not Having Sex A Sin?

Kate says… We want to share an important question we received from an OFM reader recently because we are sure there are many of you have might be asking the same question. “My wife and I were talking and we were pondering this question. We seem to get the sense that having sex is something…