I am convinced that ALL marriages at some point will have an “issue” in their sex life. I am also certain that if the church was honest, many of the couples would say that the “issues” have been substantial and had the potential to cripple their marriage. Brad and I have had our issues and challenges in the 15 years we have been married. We also know that with life changing, there will be more hurdles to overcome. Yet, how we choose to approach and look at those issues as they arise in our sexual intimacy can have a great impact on whether we get through them together or allow them to drive a big wedge in our marriage. How have you chosen to handle the issues and hurdles that have surfaced in your sexual intimacy?
When there is a sex issue how do you approach it?
I am broken
When issues come up in sex, and they will, one spouse is usually the one dealing with the issue. No matter the issue, there is a feeling of being broken. “Something isn’t right with me. My spouse is ok, but I am not, I am broken.” When I struggled with low desire for years, I felt broken. What was wrong with me, that I didn’t want sex as much as I should?