Becoming a Wife Unveiled

Kate says . . .

It doesn’t take much for me to be transported back to that young bride of 22 who has only been married for about a year. A young wife who deeply wanted to have the marriage she had hoped and yet was struggling. Sex being the biggest part of that struggle.

I very much wanted to desire my husband and at the same time struggled with desire. I felt deeply broken, I felt like something was wrong with me. We were so super charged and ready before we got married, what was wrong with me? The darkness threatened to overwhelm me every day.

I was that women, broken in darkness and feeling completely alone. Isolated and putting on a good “marriage game” face when I had to.unveiled wife

We were two people who loved God and wanted Him to be our everything in marriage. And yet we felt so alone. Both individually and together as a couple struggling with sex in our marriage. It was not the only thing we struggled with, but because of the struggle for intimacy-every other struggle was magnified.

Day 10 – Your Man and Warrior

Kate says . . . Daily your hubby goes out to slay the giants and tame the tigers. Whether or not he works or stays home, this is how God has designed him. He has a need to provide and protect you. He is your man and warrior. Yet he also has a tender heart and…

Day 9 – Serve Her

Brad Says… Most wives work double or triple duty. They do so much to take care of our home, our family, and us! All those little things that many guys couldn’t live without. How often do you turn the tables and really serve her? I’m not talking about just getting the honey do list done,…

Day 8 – Sexual Conversation

Kate says . . . Have you ever asked your husband or wife, what they like sexually? I know, I know, that is a tough one, right? It is a question that makes you feel vulnerable. Maybe before this challenge you would have never thought of asking that question. But now you have had several…

Day 7- Forget the Housework

Kate says . . . If you are anything like me, you look around your house and see all that needs done. You realize the last time you dusted, well you don’t actually know when that was. Keeping a house is hard work and with kids around keeping a clean house is like brushing your…

Day 6- Come On Baby Light My Fire

Brad says… You’ve made it to day 6! Six days of sharing and growing intimacy in your marriage. Six days of finding time and connecting with each other! Today to keep the challenge going guys, I want you to consider how you can turn up the heat. No I’m not talking sexually, that is probably already at…

Day 5- Hitting the Wall

Brad says… It will happen, it might not be today, it might not be tomorrow, but sometime during this challenge you will hit a wall. You will have that “I could pass on sex today” thought. This might be a regular thought for you, or this might be the very first time you have ever…

Day 4 – Date Night-in

Kate says . . . During the challenge, it is so important to connect on all levels. Find quiet times where you can talk to each other, hold hands and look into each other’s eyes and just connect. I believe we used to call that a date, before we were married and even newly married….

Day 3 – Can’t Get Him Out of My Thoughts

Kate says . . . Life is busy, can I get an “amen?” Everything that screams the loudest gets our attention. It is not hard to see how sex can end up way down the list. Today, all day long I encourage you to think about and anticipate the time you are going to be…

Day 2: Kiss Like You’re Dating

Brad says… Kissing is often a lost art in marriages. We can easily get so comfortable with each other that one of two things happens. We either give those quick “hello” and “goodbye” kisses, or we give the “let’s hurry on to the next step before the kids interrupt us again” kisses. Remember back when…