Category Archives: Spiritual Intimacy

The Broken Bedroom

Kate says . . .

It’s not surprising that sex is the hottest topic on One Flesh Marriage.  Any and every post talking about sex gets the most attention, feedback and debates. Everyone has an opinion and everyone has a story. There are not to many marriages out there that have not struggled with sex at some point in their marriage.

The one question that we are repeatedly asked when we talk about sex is, “Why is sex such a big deal, it’s not the only aspect of marriage?” It certainly is not the only aspect to marriage and when you look at statistics of time spent in your marriage, sex will be a small portion of it. (Check out The Most Important 0.625% Of Your Marriage, a great post written by a friend of ours.)

If sex is such a small portion of marriage, why is it such a big deal? Why is it that it is so attacked in the world and even in marriages?The Broken Bedroom

We buy into the sex lies that we are told

Everywhere we go, we are barraged with images and messages about sex and sexuality. Images of people who are not married to wearing a whole lot less than we should be viewing them in.

Brad and I were recently in Times Square seeing the Broadway show Amazing Grace (which was awesome) and we thought we’d walk around for a while before the show. There were messages being thrown at our feet and images bombarding our eyes on huge screens, all telling us lies about body image, sex and sexuality. While these were highlighted in Times Square, we see these images every day, and we buy the lies that they are telling us.  Lies such as:

  • Dressing in a revealing way for all to see is sexy
  • Wearing certain things (or lack there of) makes you sexy
  • Sex should be fun and amazing all the time and if it isn’t now with you current partner, then find someone else

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3 Things you need to know about struggling with low desire

Kate says . . . I remember the time clearly, because the mind remembers emotional pain as if it were yesterday. Our minds can forget physical pain, but recall emotional pain almost instantly. I remember because there are current moments where I wonder if I will travel down the same scary broken road. Will I… Continue Reading