Men love to fix things. We see every issue, every problem as a potential thing that we need to fix. If it is broken, squeaking, or just a pain, we can fix that. This might be true about physical things as long as we have a can of WD-40 and a roll of duct tape. However, when it comes to more relationship things, our methods don’t always work so great, but that doesn’t stop us from trying to fix it.
Just today Kate was talking about a situation in her photography business. I immediate deemed that she was being taken advantage of and without even a question from Kate to get me started, I dove in to telling her exactly what she should do to fix the problem. Before she got a word in edgewise I gave her a plan to change the situation.
You Can’t Change A Fixer
Fortunately, my wife was gracious enough to simply say, “I”m not sure that will work”, rather than blowing up at me. What could have been a big fight (and would have been in our past), was averted because she recognized that my need to fix was triggered by my interpretation of the situation as one that was taking advantage of (or hurting) her.