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Fix a Fixer Upper

Brad says…

Men love to fix things. We see every issue, every problem as a potential thing that we need to fix. If it is broken, squeaking, or just a pain, we can fix that. This might be true about physical things as long as we have a can of WD-40 and a roll of duct tape. However, when it comes to more relationship things, our methods don’t always work so great, but that doesn’t stop us from trying to fix it.fixer upper ofm

Just today Kate was talking about a situation in her photography business. I immediate deemed that she was being taken advantage of and without even a question from Kate to get me started, I dove in to telling her exactly what she should do to fix the problem. Before she got a word in edgewise I gave her a plan to change the situation.

You Can’t Change A Fixer

Fortunately, my wife was gracious enough to simply say, “I”m not sure that will work”, rather than blowing up at me. What could have been a big fight (and would have been in our past), was averted because she recognized that my need to fix was triggered by my interpretation of the situation as one that was taking advantage of (or hurting) her.

But You Can Fix Them

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Sticks and Stones and Broken Bones

Brad says…. The playground taught me the biggest lie of all time. “Sticks and Stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I don’t know who came up with this line, but there isn’t an ounce of truth in it. Words hurt. Words often hurt even more than even sticks and stones… Continue Reading