You are in the moment and you are hurt or angry. You feel justified. Perhaps you are remembering something from the past and, snap, just like that the emotions are right there as if it happened yesterday. You are caught up in those feelings and can’t seem to see a clear way out. It is real and raw. Your emotions are threatening to overwhelming you.
I have been there and just like you (to be completely honest) there were times it was crippling. It would affect me deeply and therefore affect everyone around me. So what is a wife to do when emotions hit so hard?
One of my dearest, sweetest friends shared this truth with me once: “While your feelings (emotions) are real and no one can tell you that you aren’t feeling them . . . feelings don’t always tell you the truth.”
When she shared that with me, it was one of those moments where I knew I would be forever grateful for her wisdom. It is a truth I remember often in my marriage, as well as all other relationships in my life.
Our emotions while real, don’t always tell us the truth! Can you see that my friend?
When I think back on the deep hurts of our early marriage, I am taken right back there and start feeling all those strong emotions again. Those emotions can threaten to bring up bitterness, hurt, sadness-all kinds of things if I allow it to. Yet when you remember to seek the truth not just the emotions, you can stop yourself and the pattern this thinking creates.