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Feelings vs. Truth

Kate says,

You are in the moment and you are hurt or angry. You feel justified. Perhaps you are remembering something from the past and, snap, just like that the emotions are right there as if it happened yesterday. You are caught up in those feelings and can’t seem to see a clear way out. It is real and raw. Your emotions are threatening to overwhelming you.

I have been there and just like you (to be completely honest) there were times it was crippling. It would affect me deeply and therefore affect everyone around me. So what is a wife to do when emotions hit so hard?

One of my dearest, sweetest friends shared this truth with me once:  “While your feelings (emotions) are real and no one can tell you that you aren’t feeling them . . . feelings don’t always tell you the truth.”

When she shared that with me, it was one of those moments where I knew I would be forever grateful for her wisdom. It is a truth I remember often in my marriage, as well as all other relationships in my life.

Our emotions while real, don’t always tell us the truth! Can you see that my friend?

When I think back on the deep hurts of our early marriage, I am taken right back there and start feeling all those strong emotions again. Those emotions can threaten to bring up bitterness, hurt, sadness-all kinds of things if I allow it to. Yet when you remember to seek the truth not just the emotions, you can stop yourself and the pattern this thinking creates.

So how do we separate the truth from the emotions?

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Sticks and Stones and Broken Bones

Brad says…. The playground taught me the biggest lie of all time. “Sticks and Stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I don’t know who came up with this line, but there isn’t an ounce of truth in it. Words hurt. Words often hurt even more than even sticks and stones… Continue Reading

Forgiven Hurts

Brad says… The past doesn’t always stay neatly in the past. When past hurts, pains and doubts creep back into your marriage you have a choice. Fight or surrender. In Kate’s post, “That Still Hurts” she talked about how past hurts even ones that have been forgiven can still return. She shared how important it is… Continue Reading

That Still Hurts

Kate says . . . . We all have them! Those things in the past that cut deep. So deep that when we think on them now, we start to feel the same emotions well up in us that did when we first experienced the hurt. We women tend to connect to our life experiences… Continue Reading