We’ve all had them. Maybe we woke up on the wrong side of the bed, we didn’t sleep well, or something lousy happened at work. Whatever it was that caused it, we feel like a grump and today is just going to be “one of those days”. We know we are going to be short with everyone, and just downright grouchy.
We all have them, “those days” happen. Hopefully they don’t happen too often, but every once in a while they do come around. When those days do happen, we pretty quickly chalk it up to the weather, or our sleep, or some situation we were in. We are pretty quick to give ourselves grace, and hope to have a better tomorrow. My question is do you give your spouse the same consideration?
Think about this for a moment. When we have a bad day, we usually pretty quickly recognize it and give ourselves the grace and the space that we need. When our spouse has a day, we often switch into the defensive detective mode.
We start asking all kinds of questions. “What’s wrong?”, “Did I do something?”, “What happened?”, “Why aren’t you talking?” We feel like we need to uncover what is going on. We want to make sure they aren’t upset at us, or something that we did, (or didn’t do).
But it doesn’t stop there, even if we get through the list of questions it is pretty easy to switch into irritated defensive mode. “I don’t know what you are all upset about, but you don’t have to be so rude.” Making those comments is just putting up the wall, letting them know that their mood isn’t welcome.