Tag Archives: Lust

Emotional Lust

Kate says . . .

 “But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28 NLT)

I am thinking that many of you have heard this verse before. Jesus is speaking specifically to men, to husbands about something he knows will be a struggle. Even though this verse is directed toward guys, I feel that it has a great deal to say to us wives as well. I always want to be very careful not to take a scripture out of context or add something that is not there. So when I say that there is a lot to learn here, I believe it is consistent with the flip side for women.

For use women lust over the visual tends to be less of an issue, though we can get caught up in the looking at men other than our spouse. The truth is that other person is not for us to admire at length. But my post today really isn’t about that.lava heart

I Wish…

How many times have you caught yourself thinking:

  • I wish my husband would bring me flowers like her’s does.
  • I wish my husband would care about my every emotion with tenderness and love.
  • I wish my husband would listen to me and snuggle with me more.
  • I wish my husband were more like . . . . Mr. Darcy!  🙂

Have you ever found yourself pining over a character in a book or movie who is just so romantic and caring and thoughtful? Perhaps it gets even more personal than that, maybe he is the husband of a friend or colleague, and you find yourself imagining life with that man. That my friends is “emotional lust”.

The dictionary definition of lust is:

“1) An Intense or unrestrained sexual craving, or
2) An overwhelming desire or craving.”

Hmm, when we have an overwhelming desire for our emotions to be met by someone other than our hubby, we are lusting after something that isn’t ours. It is no different from a husband who wants more sex and intimacy and is lusting over another women physically. Continue Reading

Help Each Other Up

Marriage: Mission Possible Today Stu & Lisa Gray from The Stupendous Marriage Show will be sharing their Marriage: Mission Possible . . . If there was only one thing from the story of your marriage that you could share, what would it be? What lesson learned, revelation, heart change or profound moment is a testament to God’s plan… Continue Reading

A Story of Zing 1 & Zing 2

Brad says… Right before this year’s 10 Day Challenge, I cautioned husbands about a desire to “add a new page to their sexual playbook.”  In 10 Day Challenge Pregame Rules I told husbands that this might not be the time to introduce a new idea into the bedroom. Now that the 10 day challenge is a… Continue Reading

Ogle Away!

Brad says… Kate’s last post, “Eye Catching Modesty in Marriage” did a really awesome job talking about two very different issues, appropriate dress in the bedroom and outside of it! (Not just bragging on my wife here but I think it is a really awesome post!)  I wanted to continue this theme in my follow-up… Continue Reading

Masturbation: One Husband’s Story

Brad says… Over the past few days we have been inundated with comments, questions and emails in response to our posts, “Take Matters Into Your Own Hands” and “Masturbation: What’s a Wife To Do?” and “Masturbation: A Little More Detail” The response was so great that we decided to share a few more thoughts about… Continue Reading