We want to share an important question we received from an OFM reader recently because we are sure there are many of you have might be asking the same question.
“My wife and I were talking and we were pondering this question. We seem to get the sense that having sex is something that we should be doing but for whatever reason we tend to…not. Does that mean that we are somehow sinning?”
Sex, whether it is lack of sex with your spouse or misusing sex, is not a salvation issue, something that would inhibit you from being saved. That being said God does give some pretty straight forward thoughts on sex within marriage in 1 Corinthians 7:1-5
“Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to abstain from sexual relations. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (NLT)