I don’t know about you, but I was a big fan of Brad’s idea in, Man Cave or Couple’s Cave. Creating a space for the two of us, making it our own, enjoying it together-that would be so much fun! If you have the extra space in your house, why not? Of course there are many of you that do not have an extra room to dedicate to be a “couple’s cave” space. To be honest we are not at that point in our lives either. I suppose we could use the family room, but that may be a bit awkward at family gathers and holidays. 🙂
Even if you don’t have the extra space to create an elaborate couple’s retreat, there is always your bedroom! A while back I made the transition from insanity in our bedroom, to sanctuary. Now it is truly a space that we can go, after the kids are in bed, and just be us. It is a sanctuary, a retreat, and it suits our one flesh personality. It does not fit just my personality or Brad’s but it is build around the personality of our marriage. If you haven’t read my post Sanctuary or Insanity, check it out. I encourage all of you wives out there to consider if your bedroom is a sanctuary or does it cause you to feel insanity upon entering?
Maintaining the Sanctuary
Recently, life has been a bit hectic. I am sure I am not alone in that feeling. We all have many things on our plates that are vying for our attention. It is easy to start falling into old habits. For us, one of these old habits is leaving the bedroom mess and just closing the door. Since I share this space with my amazing hubby’s, the stuff around the room may be mine and it may be his. As I’m closing the door on the mess behind me I have a choice!
Choose to Bless Him
When life is busy and things are lying around, we have a choice to bless our hubby’s by helping them out or leaving them to fend for themselves. It is the choice between generosity and selfishness! I always try to keep in mind that my hubby is just as busy as I am and has the weight of our family on his shoulders. I want to be a blessing to him!
2 Corinthians 9:11 says, “you will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.”
10 Minute Round Up
One of the things that I have adopted in my life is to walk through my room each day and do a 10 minute round up. Just 10 minutes-no more. I look around and see what needs picked up off the floor, what needs put away and what needs straightened up a bit. Then I go back to my regular day and feel a whole lot better about our room being ready for us in the evening. It is only 10 minutes, but it is a very important 10 minutes that you are investing in “your” retreat space.
Whether you have a couple’s cave all decked out, or your bedroom is your current retreat, you can take 10 minutes a day to straighten up that space and bless your hubby and your marriage at the same time. While you’re at it, pray for your hubby during those 10 minutes. Pray for him at work and all that he does to take care of his family. It is great way to do something physically to bless your hubby while praying for him at the same time.
Brad shared some great ideas for how to make your couples cave or bedroom a sanctuary. I would love to hear some of the things that has made your space special. What have you added to your space or taken away from it, that has made a huge difference in the feel of your room? I can’t wait to hear what you all have done with your space!