Tag Archives: Submission

Step Up and Lead

To celebrate OFM’s 2nd birthday we are answering the top 6 reader’s questions:

Question #5 – How can I get my husband to lead?

Kate says…

I think there is a natural feeling that every wife has, “I want my husband to lead my family and me”. That being said, many women, including myself at a time, fight that feeling. Many wives have asked us how they can get their husbands to step up and lead. Here are a few of the ideas that God has placed on my heart about this subject:

If you want him to step up – you have to step back.

If you truly want your husband to step up to the plate, you need to go have a seat on the bench! That does not mean that you are not in the game, or that he makes every decision without you. It means that you give him the space he needs to figure out what leading looks like.

Practical ways of doing this include: Continue Reading

Submission = Responsibility

Brad says… Kate’s last two posts dealt with the challenging and let’s face it, controversial issue of submission in marriage. I admit, reading Kate’s words in these two posts, “Submission= Freedom! Huh?” and “Handing over the Reins” was a powerful experience for me, why? Because she was openly speaking the guy’s language of love: respect!… Continue Reading

Handing Over the Reins

Kate says . . . After my last post, Submission = Freedom!  Huh?, I received this great question from a OFM reader: “What I’m wondering is after almost 7 years of being the independent, head strong at times controlling “pants wearer”, how do I let my husband know it’s safe to ‘take the reins’?” This… Continue Reading

Submission = Freedom! Huh?

Kate says . . . If you have been reading many of our favorite bloggers lately, the topic of submission has been discussed at great length.  I love to see this, because I believe this topic is so important in marriage, yet it is often controversial and therefore easy to shy away from.  I believe… Continue Reading

Journey to the Space In-Between

Brad’s Response to “The Marriage Road Less Traveled” I find that Christian men, when discussing the issues found in Ephesians 5: 21-33 tend to belong in one of two camps. Depending on which camp they belong to, they quote one part of this passage and ignore another part. There is camp “Under Thumb” and camp… Continue Reading