Kate says (and Brad seconds) . . .
So there are those moments when someone will say to me, “So do you and Brad ever have marriage problems?” or “Wow, it must be nice to have everything figured out in marriage!” of “So, now that you have a good marriage, is it still so much work?”
While I never feel like these things are said in a condescending or mean way they still make me sad. Here is what I deeply desire for you to remember, similar to what I shared in my post 10 Confessions of a Marriage Blogging Wife. We want to always be vulnerable and transparent, but I do know that sometimes those who are in marriage ministry can seem infallible. Let me tell ya how it is here in our household and our marriage. Here goes:
We are not perfect and do not have a perfect marriage!
With all that we have shared of our story and all that God has changed in us, I hope we have never given that impression. Only Adam and Eve knew what a perfect marriage was like (for a time) this side of heaven. Brad and I are unique, broken individuals, growing in our One Flesh journey. That my friends is a recipe for an imperfect, yet grace filled marriage!
We fight, argue and even have times of disconnectedness!
Why yes we do! But it is different than it used to be! We keep in mind the patterns that we fall into and we are constantly taking a good hard look at ourselves (not the other person) to see what we need to work on to impact our marriage. God has driven this home in my spirit so many times and showed me that His truth works: You can be the change you want to see in your own marriage! Continue Reading