10 Ways to Get Your Husband Excited About the 10 Day Sex Challenge

Kate says . . .

Hmm . . . getting your hubby on board for the 10 Day Challenge.  While some wives might have themselves a little laugh knowing that the mere mention of such a challenge will be enough to get him on board, there are other woman who the mere thought brings them to tears with great pain in their heart, because their hubby struggles with lack of desire.  I want to be understanding and sensitive to both.  Regardless of how you and your hubby approach sex and intimacy in your marriage, let me encourage you that this challenge, with God’s help has the potential to bless you and teach you much.  Never underestimate the power of God to work, extend grace, bless and work in your marriage.

I am going to start with the number 1 way, and then reverse and go backwards.  Yes, life with me is never dull, Brad is always on his toes!

1.  Pray!!!

I wanted to start with the number 1 way to get your husband on board for the 10 Day Challenge and the most important.  Whether you struggle with sex and intimacy or perhaps your hubby does, seeking God’s desire for your marriage through this challenge is so vital.  Maybe you and your hubby have a great sexual intimacy, but simply want to see what God will show you through this challenge.  Wherever you are, God knows your marriage.  He knows the good, the bad, the ins and the outs.  But he wants for you to talk with Him.  Ask Him for his leading and what he wants of you as wife, seeking Him.  Ask Him to show you how you can bless your husband and your marriage through taking part in this challenge.  Pray!

9.  Share with your hubby your desire your marriage

Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 7:1-7

Openly express your desire for your marriage.  I am think that most of us would love to see our marriage blessed and become what God wants of it.  Share that desire with your hubby.  Pray Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 1:1-7 over your marriage.  Seek God’s will for those verses in your own life.

8.  For 10 days you will share time alone together

Lovingly tell your hubby that every day you will make time for him, no matter what.  Not just sex time, although that will be a part of it.  Time snuggling, talking, touching and enjoying each other’s company.

7.  Share in reading marriage material together

Encourage your hubby to check out the blog, if he does not already.  Show him the 10 day challenge posts from a little over a year ago, so he can get a good idea of what is going on!  We will be sharing tips for you during the challenge as well as sharing what we learned doing the 10 day sex challenge.

6. Move past your sexual intimacy stumbling blocks

Even the best of marriages have stumbling blocks.  There are certain things that keep us from sex at times.  Some cannot be avoided, others can.  As you embark on this journey you will become more aware of those stumbling blocks and how to move past them.

5.  10 straight days of sex.  Enough said!

For many hubby’s this will be enough to get him on board.  Find some fun, sexy way to share the challenge and explain that you will share 10 days of sex together.

4.  Well planned spontaneity

There will be a great need for spontaneity as well as planning.  Whenever we make something a priority in our lives, we have to plan.  Yet, sometimes we have to throw caution to the wind and be bold and spontaneous!  Both of these things can be very appealing!

3.  Free Giveaway!

It is our desire to share with our amazing readers, some awesome resources.  We will have a few giveaways of these resources at the end of the challenge.  Look for how you can enter to win, soon!  (* If you would like to donate prizes for our 10 Day Challenge give away please Contact Us )

2.  Express your desire to focus on what is pleasurable to your hubby

Marriage is not all about us, right wives?  Even though we want to just have a selfish party many days.  Challenge yourself to put your hubby’s needs and pleasures first.  Nothing totally outside of your comfort zone, but focusing on his pleasure.  Though it is difficult at times, putting your hubby first is healing and will bless you both tremendously!

I hope that these 10 things will help both you and your hubby to save the date for the 10 Day Challenge!  Mark you calendars for February 5th through the 14th and get ready to have an awesome experience together!

Help us get the word out!  Share this with others and pass it along, and let us know in the comments if you are planning on taking the plunge with us!

Don’t worry guys, Brad’s going to be posting his 10 ways to get your wife on board soon!


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19 Responses to 10 Ways to Get Your Husband Excited About the 10 Day Sex Challenge

  1. My husband and I are doing this with you guys! We just found your blog in the last month, so it’s fun timing for us! Thanks for pushing us higher up and further in!

  2. So excited and can’t wait to do this with all the other couples out there. Thank you so much for this encouragement.

    • Hi Elizabeth! We are glad to have you join us in the challenge! We appreciate your kind words very much! Blessings to you and your hubby! Kate

  3. I am a wife with a low-libido husband. It is very frustrating because he has no desire for intimacy much less hugging or kissing. I’m lucky if we come together once a month. Right now, it has been nearly three months despite all efforts on my part. Good luck, though, to everyone else.

    • Hi Ann! Thanks for writing and sharing some of your story! My heart breaks for you as I can imagine how much you are hurting. Never give up hope! There is great hope and healing in God’s plan for marriage and intimacy. Keep trying to share how you feel and how much you miss that time with your hubby. Try to avoid pointing fingers and blame, but rather share from your heart how much you miss your hubby and how you want your marriage to grow. Have you thought about having your hubby’s testasterone levels checked? It is sometimes hard for the men to do want to do this, but could be a good place to start. Please know that we are praying for you and that you are not alone. More and more wives contact us everyday sharing that their hubbys also have low desire. Thinking of you and praying for you!
      Blessings, Kate

  4. I also have a low-libido husband and one that struggles with ed. He has had his heart checked, good there, testosterone was low, but the shots were $150 a week! and did not seem to make any improvement. He tries about once a month as well, but if it doesn’t work out, he leaves me hanging as well. I feel bad for him, but hard as I try not to, I feel bad for me as well. It’s frustrating and makes you feel very unfeminine. I hope this challenge works for the majority of people. I just don’t know that it works for those of us whose husbands don’t seem to care for sex. Thankfully for me, my husband is willing to kiss and to snuggle, but that is all I get. At least I get that.

    • Hi R. Ann! Thanks for sharing! I hear you and while we have not struggled with Brad’s libido (other then on occasion), we have struggled with mine at different times in our marriage. I also have learned to put myself in my hubby’s shoes and have learned what being rejected made him feel like. I have no doubt that you feel unfeminine, frustrated and alone! My heart breaks for you! Don’t lose hope! I know it is easy for me to day that, but remember God is the God of restoration! I am sure your heart breaks for your hubby as well! Wow, $150 a week, I can see where that would be a huge hardship. Keep seeking God and perhaps keep doing research and second opinions, possibly! I know it must be exausting, but keep searching to see if you can find someone to help you both for a reasonable price! I praise God that you both have found other ways to be intimate together-snuggling and such. That is so vital and a step many couples who struggle with low testosterone avoid alltogether! I think you are an amazingly strong woman and it sounds like you have a pretty awesome guy! Keep seeking God and answers. Know that we will be praying for you! Blessings, Kate

  5. I like item #1 a lot. How can we forget to pray? It is probably also worth noting some of the benefits of a 10 day challenge. Like fasting, praying, or flossing for ten straight days, ten days of sex will help you create a habit. Some days you’ll be glad you are forced to have sex, other days you’ll have to make an intentional decision to stop doing one thing in order to have sex. Like any journey of habits, you’ll be impressed with your ability to act out of discipline. This post reminds me of a post at (link removed) called “Sex Marathon”where instead of 10 days, the writer sets the challenge at 26 days to be compared to the 26.2 miles of a running marathon. Either way, the principles and benefits are the same.

    • Michael,
      Thank you for your comment! Prayer is a very important part of growing in intimacy! We’ve seen some of the longer challenges too, but like the idea of 10 days. It is long enough to make couples rethink “normal” but not too long that sex starts to become a chore.

  6. I’m probably going over old ground here, but part of our widespread libido problem in the west is that we have bought into the popular perversion that sex is a pleasure-seeking end in itself. Little wonder the novelty wears off. But if we go back to God’s Word, we realize that husbands and wives were designed by God to be a sexual joy and blessing to each other, and that we are seriously disobedient to Him when we withhold ourselves or do not strive to deal immediately with any problems (I Cor.7:1-5). It is wonderful how many of life’s defects can be rectified once we understand our obligation to God’s plan and will, and then seek to obey Him. Christian couples should be the happiest, most secure people on the planet, largely because they are listening to what God is saying about the necessity of expressing love for each other through sexual intimacy.

  7. I think my marriage is in a lot of trouble, my husband use to be so loving, compassionate and always hugging me kissing me. He always wanted to be with me. Now I can’t hardly get a hug from him, getting him to even show any kind of emotion is like pulling teeth!!! Sex that is awhole other story I pretty much stopped asking for it and I just wait till he wants it but it’s not even like he truly wants it. he can’t keep his eyes open and when its the foreplay he is basically asleep, I nudge him. I don’t know what to do anymore. We’ve been together 25yrs and sex was usually awesome. I love him so much but I’m sorry there is something wrong This man isn’t just tired. I even made him go to the drs for testosterone shots thinking it was that to help with him being tired obviously its US!!! Do I stay or do I leave???? im so confused.

    • Stephanie,
      Thank you for your comment! I can read the desperation in your words. I would encourage you to take a step back. Stop just looking at actions and start talking. What is he SAYING about his increased sleepiness? Does he see that it is impacting your sex life and does he want to change that? There might be reasons that he is feeling more tired that has nothing to do with “not wanting you”. What did the doctor say about his need for testosterone? If he has low levels that could absolutely contribute. Have some conversations with out throwing in guilt or accusations. Just tell him that you want to get back to the way things were, and want to help him. See what he says. I pray that you are able to hear each others hearts and find a place of peace to work together!

  8. Thank you both for being REAL..and Passionate about nurturing and caring for the marriage relationship. Our hearts are burdened for couples to reconnect and grow in their marriages emotionally, sexually, and spiritually. We are excited to take on this challenge. With just recently having our 3rd child….it’s interesting how things change. Thank you for your encouragement to us as married couples…so many marriages are shattered, because of selfishness….we are on board with you…and will share and pass on this blog to many of our married friends. God Bless!

  9. We tried to do this last year but my husband got the flu. We both bummed out. We said, at that time, that there’s always next year. So here it is! Yay!