Author Archives: Kate

“That” Time of the Month

Kate says . . .

This is a topic I have been asked to write about often. But let’s be honest, it’s not the easiest topic to share about. It’s the topic of wives having their period. The thing that we wouldn’t want to be without and yet is at time something we dread each month.How can we do that time well and how do we help our husband understand us during that time?

I think there is always going to be misconceptions and lack of ability to understand for us wives, what it is like to be a man. The same is true for husband understanding what it is like to be a woman. It is hard for a husband to completely understand and empathize with something he has not been through. So this post is for both husbands and wives, trying to better understand and navigate “that” time of the month.

She might not understand either

I think the biggest thing I can share about having my period and the time that surrounds it is, I don’t know why I feel the way I do either and it frustrates me just as much as it can frustrate Brad. I know that sounds a bit loony and believe me I feel it. And yet, there are times I seriously ask myself, “What is your issue?” I have often felt this way and silently hoped Brad would just understand. But that is an unrealistic hope. He has always been very open to being helpful during my period, but also baffled at times. Let’s admit it ladies, we can have that effect on our hubby’s.

One of the best things I did for our marriage dealing with my period and the times I felt “out of sorts” was to tell Brad just that. To let him know that I felt “crazy” and that I didn’t like it but also didn’t know what to do about it. I never knew that could be helpful. Yet once I did that, Brad would often go out of his way to be helpful in any way he could. He said he always assumed he was the one that was upsetting me and once he understood that was not the case, he could be more helpful. Before he was always scrambling to figure out what he had done wrong and make it right. Continue Reading

The Power of Touch

Kate says . . . Touch: something so simple and yet so vital to life. While it is a love language, everyone needs it. The dictionary definition of touch is: “An act of touching someone. or something.” “To handle in order to manipulate, alter, or otherwise affect, especially in an adverse way.” I found these… Continue Reading

Feelings vs. Truth

Kate says, You are in the moment and you are hurt or angry. You feel justified. Perhaps you are remembering something from the past and, snap, just like that the emotions are right there as if it happened yesterday. You are caught up in those feelings and can’t seem to see a clear way out.… Continue Reading

Husband Bashing

Kate says . . . Sometimes it’s so easy and you just can’t resist. You are out with a bunch of girlfriends and you all start talking about your husbands. One thing leads to another and you are all in comradery about your husbands. Only the comradery is about the ways that your husbands are lacking.… Continue Reading